A Relationship that Nurtures

I have always been sarcastic to the clinical psychologists because of despicable encounters with one and being informed about how the industry runs later.

But earlier this week I saw one of them who expressed his view on a healthy relationship in SCMP and I like that article and thought may be there are still some good guys out there.

The article says that if you are afraid to raise your honest opinion when you are in the relationship due to co-dependency, then it is not a good sign.

People should help each other but not forever so. If you are not able to do something now, you should learn to do it later. If you are no good at something in the past, you should try to improve and learn.

If the relationship becomes the reason that the participants won't grow, then they would be dependent to the point that if they raise a voice which might not be pleasant to the other, they would pose a danger to themselves.

Dependency is evil but temporary ones are acceptable. The CP pointed out that many are engaged in unhealthy relationships because they grew in in such so they built more as they age.

To me, that article, which seemed to be about romantic relationship at a glance, was actually a poignant comment on the 5K years of Chinese culture.

We are not supposed to revolutionize our political system to create a better society. We are not supposed, as a kid, to force our parents to provide us a more nurturing environment. As couples, we are told that it is the truth that each are highly dependent with each other. We are told not to change a tradition even if it is doing harm to all because "we are Chinese, we have traditions, we don't change".

As a result, the Chinese are being despised by most developed countries, and the Chinese government is openly building relationship starring dependency as the core with other developing countries.

In my eyes, it is not healthy to the world. Independence should be promoted for a prosperous and peaceful world where people can have a good life and are able to respect each other.

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人類有很多不同的屬性,有一兩種偏離正常(就當是十分之一吧)是很平常的。假設人有5種互相沒有關係的屬性,五個數值都是「正常」的機會只有一半左右。
但是如果五個數值之中,同時有三種是「不正常」的,那麼100人之中,就只有不到一人,堪稱「異界人」了。

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